A Confession of Solo traveller

Photo of A Confession of Solo traveller by Brila lumo

While i am still identifying the real me, I came across this version of me who love to solo travel , a slow traveler!!

Though i have solo travelled abroad before , I got the real taste of Solo travel during my visit to Nepal. Today , travelling for me is absorbing the real essence of a destination and loosing myself into the stories of new adventures & new characters. Just like any other female I was scared, though I had decided to solo trip. It was never a choice, but circumstantial decision to have a break for a bit of self love & care. I had to gather so much of courage & break all stereotype thoughts that have been taught all these many years, to do something like this. The best part was that I never disclosed my solo travel plan & so I didn’t seek for any approval. A perk of being single. It was the first baby step of loving my companionship.

We don't choose destinations, they call us!!

Photo of Sarangkot View Tower, Sarangkot Road, Pokhara, Nepal by Brila lumo

It's never easy at first when you see around group of people enjoying vacation, while you are on a solo. i had my own hickups when i started , because we all have been imprinted of being tagged with someone. First 2-3 travels were weird & odd coping up with my own companionship.Solo travelling is scary & weary for many women whom I know, especially when you have never done it before. It will give you mixed emotions; making you nervous & overwhelmed every second. My father had been an inspirational force behind my travel trigger. He said once “I feel refreshed & energetic after every travel, be it a short trip or destination travel “. Though his words etched in me, I never understood the depth of it until the mindful traveler in me experienced it. Today I have got an itchy feet, craving for travel every month & i don't wait for anyone to make plans

Photo of Chalal Trek Trail, Himachal Pradesh, India by Brila lumo


I came to know about hostels for backpacking travelers through one of my friend, while I was going for an interview in Chennai. At first, i was hesitant! but thanks to my friend who made me to experience it and since then, hostels have been always my first preference while travelling. A whole new world was opened to me. I couldn’t find any racist or any rich who would discriminate you or judge you on any basis. It was purely humane world. I was embalmed with hippie culture & pure traveler vibes. You might even learn a new game or a lifesaving tip from a stranger. I even learned to play Billiards & Soccer from strangers while my café hopping in Pokhara & Rishikesh.

Photo of Jibhi, Himachal Pradesh, India by Brila lumo

I must say most of my images are clicked by strangers whom i met during journey. Stay at hostels, meeting people from across the globe, listening their road tripping stories, trekking with total strange friends, soon I realized this world is not as dangerous as we were taught. Had I not stepped out of my comfort zone, I would have definitely missed the thrill of solo trip ever in my life. I would have carried a constant FOMO the chance to see this beautiful planet. Gradually I realized that travel had changed me. It has taught me to be more empathetic, to be content, to be a minimalistic, to be a responsible traveler. There is so much to learn & experience from travel than from our small world of routine life . Its true that our family, friends & colleagues will teach us life lessons, but travelling will give you the experience & soul lessons what our comfort zone cant teach

Photo of Pokhara, Nepal by Brila lumo

I have experimented to identify what kind of a traveler I am!! I always loved the last moment plans & backpacking. So far it turned out to be the best trips than the planned ones. The excitement of waking up in a strange city, sipping a coffee while tuning to your favorite music & walking around the streets has brought a never ending love for travel in me. Unplanned solo travels are like unboxing a gift, a suspense thriller because you travel the unexplored trails with the curiosity of not knowing what’s in store for you. That’s where solo travel becomes a lifetime experience and learning.

Photo of A Confession of Solo traveller by Brila lumo

It’s good to have a bucket list, but it’s perfectly fine if you don’t cover all of them from it. But experiencing the essence of fierce independence & the sense of freedom to go at your pace is irreplaceable. You are never alone when you start loving & finding happiness in your companionship. Hostels have been always a shoulder for me to reach out for a buddy, when I feel to have one during my travel.

I remember, during my Jaipur travel while I was stepping out of the hostel for site seeing, a Spanish woman ran into me & asked “Hey, am going towards the fort side, do you want to join? “That’s when I felt , I made the right decision to be a solo globe trotter & make best travel buddies from around the world and have fun. It would have been silly of me not to travel, just because I didn’t had anyone to accompany me as per my plans.

Photo of A Confession of Solo traveller by Brila lumo

The best thing, I had learned was that never tell your plans to anyone until you finish it. There will be many to demotivate & discourage you. In the end, it’s only your dreams what matters you to the most , not anyone's approval & it would be apt to the quote “ TRAVEL & TELL NO ONE, LIVE HAPPILY & TELL NO ONE, BECAUSE PEOPLE RUIN BEAUTIFUL THINGS “.

step out & experience the world by yourself that no teacher or university can teach you :-). Check out my instagram page for offbeat travel stories